How to talk dirty, talking dirty
Been asked to talk dirty?
Want to talk dirty to a partner to surprise them but don't know where to start?
These top tips are the 3 greatest things to know, think about or use when you are about to talk dirty. They'll simplify the whole process for you and put you on the right track.
1 - Talk About Experiences.
There is nothing worse than when someone tries to tell you about an event that they didn't see themselves or explain the story line for a film they haven't been to yet.
The story gets garbled, distorted and ends up resembling nothing of any great worth. It's the same when you try and talk too. Talk about something you know of and the words flow freely, quickly and the whole thing makes sense. But start talking about something you DON'T know about and your talk becomes stilted, full of lengthening pauses and hesitation. I mean, what could be less sexy than dirty talk littered with 'ers' and 'erms'?
When you decide to talk dirty - stop and think back to a sexual experience you've had, seen or watched. Then describe it with adaptations for your current situation. Obviously, if you and your ex had an amazing sex life and you fall back onto thinking of this, you can still use that material but adapt it so that your current partner hears about what you'd "like" to try with them and how you think it would pan out. (They don't need to know that your amazing imagination is actually based on previous experience - unless you think they'd like to!!)
Talk about what you know. If you don't know anything yet but still want to talk dirty - buy an adult book and read it. Find those stories that excite and arouse you and adapt them to you and your partner.
2 - Dirty talk does not have to be verbal!
Just because you and your partner enjoy dirty talk, doesn't mean you can't indulge whilst at work, a wedding reception or just about anywhere.
Text each other. Send your lover a text that describes what you want to do to him or what you want him to do to you.Imagine how you would feel if you got a surprise text from your partner that tells you what they want to do to you when you get home, how they want to do it and where!
For those among us who are shy and just getting into dirty talk, this is a great way for you both to break down the barriers of mind or circumstance that holds you back. It's naughty enough but controlled also and doesn't leave you exposed too greatly. Your shyness need not get involved and the anticipation you'll feel waiting for their response will be close to unbelievable, trust me!
Try it and see.
3 - Closer and Closer
When you do talk dirty to your partner - get close to them.
Obviously you'll not be sitting the other side of the room the whole time and you'll both relax into a closeness.
If you are the one doing the talking - get even closer.
Let them sense and feel you up close. When you talk tot hem, lean into their ear so that they actually feel your warm breath on their neck and ear lobes.
Intersperse your comments with light kisses or a gentle (very gentle) blow.
If you're really good and up close, let your lips graze their skin as you talk. Arch your shoulders in so that your face closes into them whilst still keeping the rest of your body from touching. The sense of how close you must be because of your lips touching will mix with the sight of your body not touching and it will add to their experience.
Use these 3 top tips when you are talking dirty to your partner and enjoy the increased response it generates.
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