My experience during my first date was one to reckon with. I was sweating all through and it is an understatement to say the tension was so real i nearly jumped out of my own skin! All that i had planned to say or do vanished out of my mind. I was practically blank and an explained state of nervousness. I hope you can guess how i was. Surely, i could not face my date one more time. There were no follow ups because i could not imagine dating someone who saw me in such overwhelming confusion. A first date dictates a lot about the days to come. It gives the first impression of who you are and whether there are future prospects in the relationship. It is hard to know what to expect or whether something will come out of it. To turn your first date into a successful romantic relationship. Play your cards right! How do you do this?
One big mistake repeated over and again is the tendency of the dates to fake everything. Do not pretend what you are not because this will leave you frustrated at last. You are who you are by design and you should be proud of that it makes you special. Focus on your strong points and overlook your weaknesses. Many are the times people lie about this or the other to cover up for their small cracks in life. The big mistake would be even to concentrate on your weakness! Nobody will notice it if you do not dwell on it. If you are financially unstable, do not feign imaginary wealth because in your effort to impress you will end up put yourself in a more state of confusion. You will have already spoilt the broth! Remember this is your first date and your date will soon find out the truth. To continue in the relationship, you will certainly need to keep putting up faces. You know what that means? Untold suffering which would have been easily avoided. The stress and the hassles is not worth. Simply tell the truth to pursue a relationship further after the first date.
Relax! It is not a life test. Even if you are not lucky to get this particular person, then he/she was not meant for you. Approach your first date with a sober mind, avoid being over confident and again not too careless. Create a favorable environment for friendship such that you both exchange the necessary information at will. Avoid creating unnecessary tension in that environment. Avoid making the whole dating scene a monologue and or a situation that seem as if if you are gilling your date with questions. If this happens, both parties will be tired of the first date and will be looking forward to end the cumbersome meeting. This is not the expected outcome. To avoid the uninvited tension, smile often and control yourself. A well maintained charming smile will offer a solution and eliminate the crippling uneasiness.
Another habit which ruins a first date is the tendency to avoid questions. Answer the seemingly challenging questions wisely but do not overlook some of them. As the wise men advise us, when you avoid storms and rough waters, you will never make a skilled sailor. Answer the questions well, it might save you another day. Follow my advice and you will never go wrong.
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