That step of asking the girl you like for a date can be terrifying but there are ways to ask a girl casually for a date that can take some of the terror out of the event. And if you can make that moment when you arrange your first "date" an easy and relaxed event, both you and your date will enjoy this process as much as the date itself.
It's always good to look at the groups you are active in for people you like first, as you share a common interest. If you know the girl through a mutual friend or at some social gathering such as a church group or club, there are no doubt plenty of times when people can socialize and get to know each other.
It's always easier to ask for a date or arrange a time to get together in a relaxed way if it can be under another context. If you are going to cold call the girl based on a friend's help getting her phone number, if you can place the call under another context, that reduces the anxiety of the conversation. Perhaps you could call because your shared friend is having a birthday and you want to have her help you scheme up a birthday party idea. Or you might find a question to ask about classes you share together or something in your shared group that would justify the call.
The quicker you move the call off of the "agenda" and into chat and light flirtation, the quicker she will understand your goals and you will get some feedback. If you already have been getting some flirting from the girl, she will cooperate eagerly in your little schemes. The easiest kind of "first date" to arrange is no date at all but a meeting to just have coffee and chat as friends. This is a safe first step because both of you have the chance to go slow, hit the escape valve if need be but flirt and explore if there is a relationship there.
It is during these informal shared settings and unthreatening coffees that a friendship can grow. Don't worry about it being a friendship because all good romances start out like this. Keep the charm coming and the gentle flirtation always on the ready so she knows you are interested.
From general flirtation to a safe coffee, it's not that big of a leap to your first date. In fact, you can even ease into that. If you have a shared interest, that makes for great material to fill that time when you are getting to know each other over coffee. When it turns out that she hasn't seen all the Fellini Films or would love to see a comet through a telescope or something like that, it's a simple lead to, "You know what don't I pick you up Friday and we can check it out?"
All of a sudden you have a date and it was just that easy and painless. You can focus on your sparkling personality and on continuing to find ways to charm her and just let the relationship grow naturally.
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