Courting on a Free Dating Site

Courting is a complex process. It involves the changing opinions of two people. Two friends can quickly become more than that, and two lovers can end a relationship just as quickly. The dating process can be likened to trying to sell a house. You fix it up as best you can and put it on sale. Interested people drive by. If they like the outside, they call the number on the sign in the yard. They tour the house, sometimes more than once. If they like the outside and inside, they may buy. Of course, people are more complex than a house. And they cannot simply spend a couple hours learning about a person and decide they want to "buy." But a free dating site, which keeps a database of people that you can peruse on your own time, is the closest thing to such a scenario. You often look at the physical appearance of a person before deciding to meet them. The right hair or eye color can be an attractant, just as the color of a house is. Of course, it isn't always about looks.

The Internet is full of dating sites. Look carefully before you decide to join a site. You can sign up with more than one, of course. However, don't pay for more than one membership. There are plenty of free dating sites out there that won't charge for anything. But these sites can get pretty big, so be ready to spend hours looking at profiles. If you get discouraged, remember this: the more people there are on a site, the bigger the selection for you. If you need to narrow your choices down, choose a free dating site that "specializes." By this, I mean one that just has the type of people you're looking for. Let's face it, if you're Jewish, your first thought for a mate might be another Jewish person. There are dating websites dedicated to just about any kind of religion, ethnicity, or race. These sites serve simply to put people together who are looking for a particular kind of person.

Online dating involves some creativity. You have to write a profile. Or make a video. But you have to be willing to honestly reveal yourself. If you don't, you'll find someone not suited to you. After you make your profile, don't leave it 'as is' for long. You can rewrite the profile as many times as needed. To add inspiration. Or more details. It's a good idea not to leave the same profile up month after month. If you plan to frequent a dating site, check your profile once a week for consistency. You may figure out a new way to present your information. Or even a new personality trait to add to it. You never know who might be attracted by a small detail.

You may not be comfortable with Internet dating. But a free dating site is a good place to try it out. There are enough free sites to meet the requirements of most people, and there is enough variation among these sites to attract a wide range of individuals. Many dating sites also provide advice and technical assistance with writing a profile or connecting to the Internet.

Jason Hulott is Director at UK Dating Online, a online dating website with reviews of the major dating services as well as lots of useful articles, resources and tips to help you make the most of your dating experience.