Do Smarts Matter? Readers Speak Their Mind.

A good one from the Washington Post re problems smart people have dating.

"Being smart does make it harder to date, and I think it's worse for smart women," writes Katherine Wertheim, 46, from Ventura, Calif. Wertheim says she found "the dilemma of dating-while-intelligent (DWI)" less troublesome when she lived in Washington, "a town filled with smart people." Still, she says, out of her crowd of very smart friends, all the men except one "chose women who weren't quite as smart or well educated ..."

While a lot of this is anecdotal, it's still worth a peruse.  Don't agree though with the typical feminist slant that smart men in general are looking for dumber women.

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Love For Wits - Most Adept Intelligent Dating Site for Smart or Witty People

What is *the* best site if you are really into dating smart people online?  As of late, you were  stuck between drab Brainiac and that English site for Mensa-level humans, or else you were bravely fishing in the nerd ponds.  Only now, there's a new player on the scene.  Thank God!  And here is a unique viewpoint on this Love For Wits place by a blogger who hates dating sites in general and finds them "sleazy":

"What do I mean by "sleaze"? It's the LOUD feel to the sites themselves, as if I'm watching a slick advert put on by Dow Chemical or BP or some corporation equally abominable. Plenty of Fish is a bit more sedate in terms of appearance (though tacky!), but based on feedback from friends it should be renamed "Plenty of Fools" (or F**K Heads, depending on who you talk to); and though it's hearsay, the horror tales regarding yet another icky dating site, e-Harmony, convinced me to run screaming."

But she goes on to say:

"An associate of mine recently introduced me to another dating site, and naturally I thought, oh yeah, right, but the name, Love For Wits, attracted me, and after I clicked to their home page I got a good laugh at their tag line: YES, THERE IS INTELLIGENT LIFE ON EARTH AND IT'S ON LOVE FOR WITS.COM SEARCHING FOR OTHER INTELLIGENT LIFE. This pulled me in. I can't resist something different, apparently intelligent, and amusing at the same time; and for a dating site, this was RADICAL. How dare they attempt to separate themselves from the greater mass of humanity!"

More on this here.

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From Huffington: "Smart, Meet Heart: 5 Remedies for Smart People's Dating Woes"

According to "doctor" whatshisname who posts at Huffington Post, you need to look inside yourself and do these five things that make you a better person (assuming smart people are generally jerky?).  Basically, it's a Christmas Carol evolution in some ways:

"Some of you, my astute readers, already noticed that the dating challenges enumerated in the last article - focusing on careers instead of relationships, expecting to be loved for the wrong reasons, not acting like a sexual being, self-sabotaging and ego identity - are not just specific to smart people. They're specific to people. Smart, successful folks simply get a little extra wallop of them ...Well, that's nice, you say. Now what are we going to do about it, doc?"

The above is worth taking a look at, but seriously, this kind of advice is not going to change someone from self-centered to humanistic.  Nevertheless, it's good to know.  An epiphany or two might be culled forth.  But all in all, dating smart people online, or otherwise, really comes with no extra baggage when compared to  dating idiots, online or otherwise.  It just depends on how you spin the reality!

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